Ask And You Will Receive

Many people find it very uncomfortable to ask others for help let alone God. In fact, there is that old assumption that most men would rather die than ask someone on the streets for directions.

There are many reasons why people are reluctant to ask others for help. A fear rejection, a fear of getting hurt,  personal insecurities, pride, ego and a perceived sense of vulnerability are just some examples.   The reality is that, no matter what season you are in life, you will always need help in some areas and asking is a sure way to get a response.

I have often wondered why people stay in tough situations when the answer is just a question away. You can cut the amount of time trying to figure it out on your own, by consulting an expert in that area or by simply asking someone experienced enough to help you. This is wisdom.

A perfect example of this, is a dialogue that occurs between my eldest  daughter and I every time I try to  strap her into her car seat. When I offer to help strap her in, her first response to me is “Dad, I wanna do it myself.”

At first, I ignored her every time she said that.  Opting to just strap her in without any drama. However, the more it occurred, I realized that it could be a teachable moment for her as well. So I just let her try it out sometimes and after two or three attempts struggling, I would hear her call in a soft voice, “Daddy can you help me please?” 

I think she gets the idea now; she no longer struggles with me, she allows me to help her by simply asking me for help. I know there will be a time when she will not need to ask me to help her with her seat belt but this is a principle that I am hoping we all can learn from.

Matthew 7:7-8 says “ “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.”

Verse 8 of the above scripture is so emphatic that it says “Everyone” who asks, receives. It doesn’t matter what your background is, it doesn’t matter if you feel unqualified,  just ask God for help today and you will receive. Your discovery is at the end of your asking. God is so merciful that he brings into our lives people who are capable of helping us in the seasons of our lives. Don’t let pride, insecurities or stubbornness prevent you from asking today. God bless.



A Father Heart

I remember holding my little 6 pound daughter in my arms for the first time. It was 9:49am on a warm Saturday morning and I had just experienced her birth. I was now a dad. After many years of secretly wishing for parenthood, I was now privileged to hold my offspring in my arms.

What a treat!!! I can say that something happened to me that I really can’t explain, I felt an immediate connection to her that was beyond words.  I was holding a life in my hands; her life, sustenance and shelter was now dependent on us. I held her close to my heart to feel her heart beat and I almost lost it.

Almost a year and a half later, I was holding two more daughters in my arms (twins) in the same hospital and I was so joyful again for the  opportunity to play a role in raising them up.

I also realized that there is a heart connection between a Father and his children. I felt it as I held my own children in my arms for the first time and as they grew up that connection became even stronger. I am shocked sometimes when my children call me”daddy,” I look around to see if it is me they are talking to. What I now realize is that I am simply responding like our heavenly Father, who delights greatly in our existence.

Psalm 103:13 says”As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him;”

A fathers compassion for his children is hard to explain, it is deeper than mere feelings and it will propel a man to work hard and forgive his children even when they mess up. Looking back at my life, I am grateful to God for allowing me to feel the effects of this connection through Him and from my biological father.

The reality is that so many children have not received this type of connection from their fathers. Their memories and experiences of their dads are unpleasant and repugnant. However, God created Fathers to connect on a unique level with their children. Let me urge those who have not experienced this type of heart-felt connection with their biological dads,

psalm 68:4-5  says

“Sing to God, sing in praise of his name, extol him who rides on the clouds rejoice before him—his name is the Lord. A father to the fatherless,……”

God is a Father to the fatherless and His commitment towards you is unshakable. He is here for you and He is looking down on you with loving eye, receive His love today.

Happy Fathers Day to all Fathers.

You Have What It Takes

One of the greatest obstacles we all have to climb, is that sense within us that we don’t measure up or that we are not good enough. Most of us are in a constant internal struggle to accept the fact that we really have something to offer.

Past failures, verbal abuse and low self-esteem are some reasons why we look down on ourselves. Sometimes when we look at others and see how excellently they present themselves, we become intimidated and crawl into our “shells.” It so easy to think that we are not worth the attention, so easy for us to feel like we don’t meet up, however, God wants us to see ourselves differently.

There is a story in the scriptures about a young man named Gideon, he was an unassuming man with a serious inferiority complex.  When the angel of the Lord appeared to Gideon and addressed him as a mighty warrior, Gideon responded with doubt about his abilities to carry out the call on his life.

Judges 6:14-15 says “The Lord turned to him and said, “Go in the strength you have and save Israel out of Midian’s hand. Am I not sending you?”15 “Pardon me, my lord,” Gideon replied, “but how can I save Israel? My clan is the weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my family.”

Although in God’s eyes, Gideon was capable, in God’s eyes Gideon had the strength to deliver the people of Israel from bondage, he did not feel the same way. Who you are, is different from how you feel. You may feel inadequate, you may feel like you don’t have what it takes but that is not who you are. There is a need to view ourselves through the lens of God’s word, accept what His word says and act right away. Gideon was living in fear and doubt until he became assured of his true identity.

Heb 10:35-36 says “35 So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.36 You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.”

Friends, you have what it takes to make it, you have what it takes to run that business successfully, you have what it takes to be a good parent, a doting husband or wife, you have what it takes to be loved and respected, just take sides with God word today. God created us excellently and He gave us unique abilities and talents that no one else has. There is a God-given assignment for your life and our responsibility is not just to recognize that we have these talents but also be bold enough to use what we have regardless of how we feel.

God bless.