Stop Trying To Be Perfect

I have found that one of the most humbling realities to accept in life is the fact that no one is perfect. Yeah we may look good, ooze charisma or even speak eloquently; however, if we are honest with ourselves, we all can attest to one or two weaknesses in our lives.

I have also discovered that there is a warped view of what true perfection is. We are bombarded with so many images in our media of the“perfect abs,” the “perfect teeth,” the “perfect face” the “perfect body” and even the “perfect church. “ This quest for human perfection takes our focus away from the person that has the ability to help us attain divine perfection, Jesus Christ.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not against striving for perfection or being excellent, what I am simply saying is that perfection can never be attained in our strength, by our own abilities or intellect. True perfection can not be achieved without Christ. Christ is the only perfect one and it is when we submit to Him that He releases the ability for us to live perfectly and excellently.

In 2 Corthians 12: 9 Apostle Paul writes the following;

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”

Jesus (The only perfect being) told Paul in the above scriptures that His grace was enough for the weakness that He had. The link to divine perfection is God’s grace. Grace is not something we work or strive for, it a free gift given to us to receive. Grace is the ability to do what we ordinarily can’t do. God knows the limitations of our flesh that is why He sent His son to die for us so that the burden of perfection is no longer on us but on Him.

I recently had to come to terms with a weakness I had. After reading an article on the ability to listen, I decided to evaluate my listening abilities. My conclusion was that I was a terrible listner. Infact, it was a weakness I had developed over the years. The interesting thing is that the more I tried in my own abilities to pay close attention to others, the more I struggled with this inability. It wasn’t until I completely surrendered my weakness to God that I began to see improvement in that area.

Friends, it is a done deal, Christ has dealt with our imperfections so stop trying to be perfect. I have found that when we acknowledge our weaknesses like Paul did, we open ourselves up to God’s ability to assist our inabilities. When we are open about our weaknesses instead of hidding or ignoring them, we help establish a support system that can help us deal with such.

Gal 2:20-21 says “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.”

Christ is all we need and when we allow Christ live through us by yeilding to His grace to help us; He will release His power to “perfect” whatever is inperfect in our lives. God bless.



From A Father to His Daughters

The nausea was excruciating and my wife was losing a lot of weight. Even though I knew she was pregnant, there was something different about this pregnancy. When people asked us if we planned the pregnancy, at first we were hesitant to respond. The reason for this was because our oldest daughter was just a little over a 9 months old. To be pregnant again so soon was a shock to us. However in retrospect, God had a plan.

God has serious plans for every child that is born on the face of the earth. So to answer the question of whether the pregnancy was planned, my answer is an emphatic “Yes.” God not only planned the pregnancy but ordained it for that particular time.
“Are you sure you are not having twins?” I asked jokingly. My wife lifted up her face from the toilet bowl and with a look that said “Are you kidding?” shook her heard. That was the routine in the first trimester; however the time came for the ultrasound to be performed and my “joke” was confirmed.

“Congratulations, you are having twins,” wait a minute, hold up a second. Time froze for what seemed to be an eternity, my wife began to cry. Till this day, I don’t know if it was tears of joy or tears of an overwhelming sense of uncertainty. I was still in my frozen state when I saw my wife tears turn into an uncontrollable smile. The smile began to thaw me out as I wondered what we had done to deserve such a blessing. I was the last person on the face of the planet that I thought would have twins. Granted I come from a family of twins, however I always thought that the twins’ gene came from the mother’s side. I was not aware that any such link to twins existed in my wife’s family.

We took the news humbly and began to plan. Later we discovered that we would be having twin girls. I was now going to be a father of three girls. We never expected it but I know that God had a plan. We knew that we would need a lot of wisdom and grace from God and we were very sensitive to God for His directions. God instructed us to name them what we needed at that time.

We called the first baby Sophia (meaning Wisdom) and the second we called Hannah (Which means Grace). They were 13 minutes apart signifying that Gods grace is not too far behind the wisdom He gives to us to apply. We received from God two gifts exactly what we needed for that time and for that we will be eternally grateful.

That was two years ago today to be exact. I want to use this write up to salute my princesses on their birthday and I am hoping that someday when they grow up they would be able to read this as a testament to how much we love them. These are my words to my girls, my dear angels whose smiles melt my heart when I walk through the door from work. To my girls that ask for their daddy first thing in the morning. To my girls that love me to tickle them and carry them. I enjoy our “Dancing with the stars” moments when we dance and shake what “our mama gave us.” I can’t wait to have real conversations with you guys, to be there for you when you need someone to talk to, to spend time with you when you need me. I know sometimes you are naughty and I have to be strict but always know that my heart loves you and as long as God gives me life, you will never have to feel alone or neglected.

That’s my promise to you and may God help me keep it. So as you celebrate your second birthday today, may God bless and keep you. I am honored to be your daddy and I am so glad we met. Peace to you my angels, love you and Happy birthday SOPHIA and HANNAH.